An Open Letter to My Cousin

Dear Cousin,

It has been 30 years. 30 years!

We had weaved dreams after dreams. We had pinned our hopes to the next closest milestone. And the milestone kept going farther away. Now you are married. Married and gone so far away that we have quit making plans. And yet, a flicker of hope escapes me and manifests in the form of a wish. Bangalore. Goa. Pondicherry.

Cousins are supposed to be your first best friends. But things never were in favour of our bonding and the lack of it caused enough damage in our relationship. In spite of all that, there was this underlying connection between us that kept holding us together.

Remember when you used to come home? You never wanted to leave and I never wanted you two to go. I would cry after you left. It was a consistent ritual. Every time you left, I would sit in a corner and cry.

We used to plan vacations after vacations. But nothing manifested. We thought things would change when we grew up. They did. We were further apart. So much so that you seemed almost unreachable to me. Things have been said and done, and forgotten. But that yearning to be together always remained.

And then you got married, and vanished. For about a year, I thought I had lost you completely. Yet here we are, trying to mend the gaps and tend to the cracks. Here we are learning to dream again. You trying to reach out, me trying to pull you out.

Let me dare make a wish again. Let us rewrite our childhood. Let us escape for a weekend. Just the few of us. Let us go back to that childhood we dreamt of having together. For old time’s sake. To prove to ourselves that some things can be achieved no matter how late they are.

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This wish is all I have for you, for now, on your Birthday. Next time we meet, we will celebrate both our 30th Birthdays together. 🙂 Until then,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY REMYA

Note: This letter is dedicated to all the cousins who loved each other’s company and gradually lost track of each other with time. If you are one among them, maybe, just maybe you could talk to them, renew the spark and get things going, once again.


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66 thoughts on “An Open Letter to My Cousin

  1. With time childhood relationships fade. New relations, career, deadlines take over. Lucky are those people who manage to stay connected with all:)

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  2. Lovely article. Brought back the memories of my childhood and I felt like writing to my cousins. Thanks to WhatsApp and common marriageable age group , we have suddenly rebounded over the years from the time of my marriage.:D

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  3. I just love the way you write this letter, it reminds me of my cousin who was close to me but unfortunately, he is no more 😦 and from last 15 years I m missing him so much

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  4. I shared this link in my WhatsApp group where we cousins regularly interact. Every word that you have written echoes my thoughts and feelings. Most of us drift away and all that is left is wonderful memories of our childhood. Thank you for writing this one. #MyFriendAlexa #MayuraReads

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  5. A very touching letter that exemplifies the spirit of cousin-hood. Yes, I too have plenty of cousins and definitely long to be with them sometimes. But I always make it a point to ring them up and catch up with them whenever I am anywhere near the cities they live in. #MyFriendAlexa #JaiSReads

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  6. Your post made me nostalgic. Wish we could turn back the clock and go back to that simple, carefree life we spent with our siblings and cousins

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  7. Cousins form a special bond . We get busy in our own lives that we tend to lose the closeness but Thanks to WhatsApp it is at least letting us all feel near to each other . Lovely post you have written

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  8. Childhood is best time of our life for we are so close to our cousins and friends. As years keep adding, their number keeps going down and distance only escalates.everyone becomes occupied with work, personal life and all. But I just hope your letter acts as a reminder for people and decrease the distance.
    #mannreads

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  9. Hey Ranjini , this seems so universal. Our growing up, bonding , sharing so manysecrets , being much more than friends with cousins then going far away and still cherishing those childhood memories. You have written all emotions lovingly, #MyFriendAlexa #SuatawdeReads

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  10. That is lovely and actually the truth. Your post made me feel nostalgic. I am definitely sharing it with my cousins

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  11. Your letter revived some old memories about the time I spent with my cousins. Those were wonderful days. hope u have nice time with your cousin once you meet.

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  12. i can feel this letter. but unfortunately, have no cousins who share a nostalgic experience with me. but reading this letter, I remember my brother who stays in a different country. when I go to India for holidays, he does not come. when he is there, I am unable to. Hope we both meet soon

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  13. This reminded me of my cousin. Due to irreconcilable differences, we grew apart. But,its high time, we mend this or in other words I take the initiative of repairing the relationship.

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  14. You took me back to my childhood. It is so relatable that the images of my childhood with my cousins came in front of my eyes. We also used to think that things will be different when we will grow up. So nostalgic.

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  15. A cute letter to your cousin. I’m sure it must have made her day. It is a fact that when we grow up we become busy with the struggles of life and childhood friends and cousins become distant. But they are always in our heart.

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  16. Very emotional and sweet letter.Most of us could relate to this as we all are so busy in our lives and forget to keep in touch with our childhood best friends – Our cousins! Motivated to call them!

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  17. Aww so sweet! Not cousins but I am reminded of many friends with whom I made several plans of travelling near and far…. And then I got married 🙂 Someday I wish we’ll be able to implement those plans. Hope floats!

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  18. Such a deep connection here and how simple and easy life used to be earlier, planning out our weekend, vacations, gossips, fights with our cousins,

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  19. A heartfelt letter this is and I can relate to it to some extent. Few cousins tend to grow apart while others stay close through thick and thin.

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  20. This is such a wonderful letter. When we are young, we are close and connected to our cousins and relatives. When we grow up, we somehow drift apart because of our commitments, responsibilities etc.

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  21. I want to convey similar things to my cousins. We used to have so much fun along. But as we grew, somehow we got separated. Now, we hardly talks and this rakhi I missed all of them who were my brothers. I was waiting for their calls and my day ended with a dying hope of their reply for the message that I left of them.

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  22. This is beautiful, especially the pic! I want to dig into my old snaps now, ha ha. On another note, I feel so happy that I’m still in touch with some of my cousins. I really hope that weekend you’ve been dreaming of comes sooner to you

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  23. Ohh this is really an emotional read and I agree letters are best way to share our emotions. though nowadays it is almost forgotten. your post had made me nostalgic and I am missing my cousins and childhood friends.

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  24. Got very emotional while reading this heartfelt letter. Recollected umpteen summer vacations that we would spend in company of cousins. As we grew, so did the distance and now we hardly meet. Except for special occasions, we dont have time to mingle. How I wish, we could rewind time and dwell in past for few more moments!

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  25. I tried leaving a comment earlier, but it won’t let me! Trying again! This is the sweetest letter ever ❤ cousins are definitely our first besties

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  26. Awww how beautiful bond you shared with your cousin. The same I’ve with my cousin’s.
    #Myfriendalexa #dewreads

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  27. cousins love is more precious when you dont have . a sibling. ANd then as you grow old everyone drifts apart!

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